I would attribute this to traditional evangelical Christian family values, except that I recently read John Gray’s Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, and Gray makes the same assumptions (thus leading me to believe that a lot of it is cultural and another sizeable piece is generational). The part that kept bothering me was gendered stereotyping: men are like this and want that women are like this and want the other.
His hope throughout is that a couple reading this book would be able to grow in enjoying sex through the delight of getting to know each other over a lifetime. And he talks about sexual technique stuff-a few positions, a few rules-of-thumb, a few attending to questions Christians ask (for him on the several big questions many Christians wonder about, a qualified yes to masturbation as long as it fits into healthy rhythms of mutuality in sex, a triple yes to oral, and a slightly qualified no to anal, for the reason that it’s more difficult for that to be pleasurable for the woman). Leman talks about larger relationship stuff-family of origin, communication, accepting one another’s differences, how self-love and other-love are equally necessary. The synopsis of Leman’s presentation is this: good sex comes from healthy relating, from good communication, and from seeking to grow more imaginative and creative in pursuit of exploring one another’s sexuality. I finished it in about two days because it’s about sex and sex is neat, to understate things. I began reading Kevin Leman’s Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage because I found it at Goodwill and because I had had it recommended to me. The Chronicles of the Adventures Anderas.All Saints Church Chapel Hill – Durham (BLOG).History and/or Destiny History and/or Destiny.
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